Thanksgiving Do's and Don't's


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  1. Don’t go to war with exes and in-laws over where the children are going to spend the holidays. It’ll tear your children to shreds, and it is very selfish. Take turns with the holidays.

  2. Don’t cancel at the last minute unless you’re on your deathbed or you have a command performance at the White House. No-one will believe you if you claim you got your days mixed up.

  3. Don’t arrive too early or too late. If you arrive to early you’ll most likely find a frazzled, red-faced cook wearing an apron but neither sight nor sound of anyone resembling a host person. Arriving too late may have the hostess giving you scathing looks because her turkey got scorched with the wait. Either way, you’ll be confined to guest hell.

  4. Don’t bring uninvited guests or pets regardless of how good their etiquette or petiquette is. The hostess may have had other plans for her leftovers.

  5. Do not let football games control the agenda for the day. Order in pizza in that case; it’s the best they deserve.

  6. Do not keep the TV on during the Thanksgiving meal.

  7. Do remember that Thanksgiving is about relationships and giving thanks for our good fortunes, past, present, and future. It is not about gluttony; Thanksgiving is not the Great Annual Pig-out! Speaking of pigouts, remember your table manners - it’s easy enough to get indigestion without being revolted by someone’s eating habits.

  8. Do not keep urging food on guests ad nauseum, or that is exactly what you will get!

  9. Do not get into White Meat and/or Drumstick Wars. Let those with heart problems have first choice of the light meat, and leave the drumsticks to the kids; they’re the only ones who can get away with eating with their hands.

  10. If your recipes (or your mother’s) are better than those used by the cook, button it! No-one is remotely interested, let alone thrilled) to hear a critique after having slaved over a hot stove all day.

  11. Don’t come, sit and park. Offer to help, especially with the clearing up. However, if the hostess declines your offer, accept it. Don’t keep harrassing her to let you help; we each have our individual styles of work.

  12. Do watch for signals that the meal is over and it’s time to go. Don’t stay at the table and keep picking. Don’t take up residence; give the hostess some privacy, peace and quiet.

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